Here is a google hangout video interview I did with Donna. She talks about how to deal with a spouse who doesn't keep torah and the way to handle the situation according to Yeshua.
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Thank you for doing this video I am new to the Torah life and need some guidance coming from a Christian stand point.
“Be perfect, therefore, as you’re Heavenly Father is perfect ” – Matt 5:48
“Be Holy, for I am Holy” – 1 Peter 1:13-16
My life is miserable because my spouse doesnt keep Torah
Robert Lamb hello, 2 years since you posted this comment, did you keep your faith and keep Torah? Thank you
that verse does not mean what you think it does if you break one united states law yet offend in one point you also guilty of breaking all the point of this verse is to say it doesnt matter what commandment you break if you break one you failed at keeping the law this is why we needed Jesus because we have all broken the law but this does not mean we shouldnt keep it.
We’ve just witnessed how women are to submit to their husbands as their coverings; meaning, they are expected to go along side and participated with Christmas activities to a certain extent. But when the roles are switched, the situation gets a bit more complicated. When a husband’s eyes have been opened, his responsibility is to love his wife and submit to Yeshua as his covering. Loving his wife involves providing for her physically, financially, emotionally and most important, spiritually. Yes, this also involves a great amount of patience and understanding. We are certainly not supposed to go about things with an iron fist of Torah, but יהוה does expect us to stand firm upon our convictions. Back in December of 2007, I was going through the beginning processe of a divorce; my wife and I had separated. it was about that same time, that my eyes were opened to Torah. About 3 weeks into the proceedings, my wife was found to be with child; so after much prayer, I decided to annul the divorce, praying for יהוה to give me wisdom to repair the damages to our relationship. Now, in 2015, we’re still together, I believe for what we think is the betterment of our son. Our struggles are continually draining me emotionally and spiritually. Six and a half years later, she is still reluctant to try and support an even partial obedience to Torah. She tolerates my beliefs, but prefers tradition over the commandments. It is my hope and prayer that when Yeshua sets up His kingdom, that she will finally submit to Him if not me.
I’m still on my own when it comes to the 7th day Sabbath and the Appointed Times, but praise YaHWeH the fighting has ceased for the most part. I’m no longer pushing the subject with her, for it’s ultimately in the hands of the Set Apart Spirit of Elohim.
Jason Sanford i’m going through a similar situation at the moment where I am just learning of the law. My wife is stuck in the ways of modern Christianity in man-made traditions. It’s hard for me to be gentle when I’m so excited about learning all of these things when she wants nothing to do with it and even calls it dumb. Please pray for my wife that the Lord would open her heart and her eyes to see The promises of our father. Any advice would help on how to approach her. Every time I approach it seems that arguing follows into a fight.
I am in a similar situation. I wanted to share how it feels to be the wife in this situation from my perspective.
I am so zealous in my pursuit of YHWH and gaining more understanding of Torah every day. It is frustrating because I MUST wait on my husband and not go too far ahead. It’s lonely because am learning so much, daily, and sharing it with him is a little anti climactic because he does not share in the excitement. We are not able to dialog at all because he does not know what I am taking about and conversations are one sided. Celebrating holidays as the world does is all he knows and I am done and completely convinced they are not God honoring. But! I have no idea how to celebrate the feasts of YHWH yet so there is a “transition” taking place. In my husband and in me. We are both tolerant of each others views at this time and, hallelu Ya we have a happy home. It would be awesome if we were together on this NOW but I know my Father is faithful and He who opened my eyes will open his too. Thanks for listening.
Karen I understand where you are as I am in the same situation. I have been able to tone down a bit from my zeal, my need to share in the hopes that he would understand. It wasn’t working and only added stress and tension I did not want in my marriage. At times the loneliness hits when I wish I could share my joy and love as I learn new things about Yah, Torah and Jesus/Yeshua but I must remain steadfast knowing as you say He will one day open the eyes of my loved ones just as he did mine. Blessings.
Thank you so much for sharing. It is nice to know I am not alone. Blessings to you also.
you gave me hope! I really needed to hear this and remember to humble myself thanks
Thank you for sharing! Yah called me out a year ago! My husband thinks I’m nuts! It is so hard to find a balance! Most really only want to know GRACE! They think it just doesn’t matter due to “grace!!” 🙁
Greatest commandment: Love the Lord with ALL your heart, mind, might, soul…doesn’t have a clause of spouse in there interferring with that. Yeshua will not force anyone..so if our spouse is not loving the Lord that way..you can’t push them to. That would not be christian to push.. I think that is what you are saying overall.. and I totally agree. My spouse is not into Torah at all. I totally am. I’m the wife. He doesn’t push me to do his way..and I don’t push him to be doing things my way..He does call me crazy when I try to share my thoughts..I don’t push it. Patience applies. Great job you two!
EndlessWonder the Shema
What about dating/courting devout non-Torah keeping Christians if you are single? Can you make a video on that please?
Thank you this is helpful.
I feel alone among pagans an doubt conservativety exist I’m constently reminded that I’m a minority
I’m the one who trys to keep Torah as my husband does not understand. However, I do love him and do all I can for him, by no means will I come or compromise to the pagan way! I can not because the truth has been revealed to me and if I was to compromise what I understand then I am guilty. We must be a light in dark places, that light brings love and compassion but by no means gives permission to compromise what one holds as truth from Yah. And yes it is very lonely! However, it just makes us stronger!
Torah is not contrary to Jesus because he is the Torah in the flesh
I believe what scripture says.
*If you love me, obey My commandments*. John 15
Heaven and earth will pass away, but *My words will never pass away*
Matt 24
‘Redemption’ is something only Messiah can and has accomplish. His saving mercy is essential. He has ‘justified’ us before The Father. Once we have accepted His forgiveness and turned from our former ways, we now need to under go ‘sanctification’. This process is accomplished tthrough obedience to The One who rescued us from certain death.
Following Abba’s commands is *never* legalism is simple obedience. Following man- made commands *is* legalism.
Mark 7:7-13 (KJV)
7 Howbeit *in vain* do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
8 For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.
9 And he said unto them, Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition.
10 For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:
11 But ye say, If a man shall say to his father or mother, It is Corban, that is to say, a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me; he shall be free.
12 And ye suffer him no more to do ought for his father or his mother;
13 Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things do ye.
I want to keep torah, I am a christian.
SHEWOLF same
Awesome!! I am in this situation.!
Your occupation is no coincidence! Thats the perfect example of how it works, I love how GOD works😊
It comes down to the first and greatest commandment to love and please the father first, then he can give us the love to love our neighbours, yah is always first.
Messiah said i have not come to bring shalom, but a sword, the truth is that truth separates, good from evil, light from darkness.
JE SUIS TOUJOURS SINCÈRE ET LA VÉRITÉ ET MA CONDUITE AINSI QUE MA CONDUITE
JE VAIS DEMANDER A MON PÈRE ET MON DIEU QU’IL M’OCTROIS LA MORT .
Jeremiah 10:1-5 and Matthew 15:9.
Thank you brother for this video. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been praying about this very issue. This was truly a blessing.
Thank you for this video. I’m struggling with this also. I want to keep Torah, but my husband thinks I’ve lost my mind. It helps to hear from others in the same situation.
I’m going thru this right now. I’m glad I found this. Much love y’all